As working moms, we have to find that balance of working and spending time with our kids. After working with thousands of people and especially women over the last 25 years I have found some great tips to share that were I found success using them:
Don't get stuck consumed in work
I have found the happiest and most successful working moms balance life in many areas, not just kids and work they integrate in time with friends, community events. hobbies and even have time to consider their health. If all you do is work, work, work and then do kid time you will burn out quickly. You need time for yourself, your friends, and so much more. Find the balance! Ask yourself, will anything change if I finish this tonight or tomorrow morning? Usually, the answer is no, but often we women are so consumed with being the best that we don't realize our co-workers are home enjoying life while we are still working away at home. Find your balance! I have been remote working for the last 10 years and it's tough to find the break between work and home life, especially as a workaholic like me but I started cutting myself off at a certain time and factoring in playtime with my kids, and time with my husband. These changes made life so much more enjoyable.
Decide what are your absolutes
We all know what has to be done and what we can fudge on or wait. I actually everyday make myself a todo list. I start with the must haves, what has to be done, and what can wait. I also factor in putting family time on the calendar. In the summer, I'll do something fun in the morning with the kids and then I'll work in the afternoon and let the kids veg out. Break time is ok, meaning you get a break and kids get a break. Don't think as a mom you have to entertain kids for 24 hours a day. Independent play is important as well.
Creating your work boundaries
We have to find boundaries. We have to separate work from home life and if you work at home like me, it's pretty tough because essentially I am on all the time. I own and run 4 companies. I have clients all over the world in many different times zones. If I didn't set boundaries, well... I would never sleep. I started putting my phone on sleep mode and from 8pm till 8am the following day, my phone is on silent. This requires me to not be constantly on my phone, email, etc. I also set boundaries with my clients. I have a calendar link I send them and I block off all those times I should be at home relaxing so they can't schedule meetings with me all hours of the day. I also built boundaries with my family giving them specific times I need to work and not be bothered. This brought much more balance into my life and household.
Work smarter not harder
Since COVID, just about everything is deliverable. Meaning if I go to the store and shop, it will take me 30 min to get there, 30 min at least to shop, and then 30 min home. I lose 1.5 hours but if I take 15 min on my Prime Now, all my groceries will be delivered in 2 hours and I saved my time and gas money. Be smart! Find out what can you set up for delivery and streamline your life. And shopping online actually saves me money. I don't buy the extras that I don't need. And there is just about an app for everything so take advantage of it. Apps can streamline your life and bring more balance. And ladies you are not less of a mom if order your groceries online, it's called being a smarter mom.
It takes two!
There are two options here, either you are a single mom or you have a partner that is willing to support you, your dreams and help you. But if you have a partner that is not willing to do their part and it is unequal, it's time to have a talk and let your significant other know that you need a partner. After those kiddos are in bed, take time to sit down and see how you both can break up the work to make it manageable. Remind them you are not superwomen (even though we want everyone to think we are). Let's be honest about our weaknesses and what we need support on. Often many of my girlfriend's spouses just had no clue because they never asked for help. They thought, well she got it cause she is not asking for help and let me tell you so many guys think this way.
NO room for a perfectionist
Ladies let's be real. We are not perfect. Shoot, I wrote an entire book about how I practically had a mental breakdown from not being perfect. So give yourself some grace. I know we are our own worst critics and I am totally guilty of this every day. I look at myself and think...I could be more fit, I could have a more organized house, the laundry should be put up, I should have done (Bla Bla Bla). I like to say I am a recovering perfectionist meaning I am not a perfectionist (haha). So just like you give so much grace to so many people give some to yourself.
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we had a great meeting with our women in the UK/France filling us in on what they see as a needs for us to expand into UK and how we can support them. If you are in the UK and missed the meeting catch up here.
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As many of you know, our AI matching system launched just two weeks ago, and we’re thrilled to see you gradually activating your profiles. We understand this process will take some time, and we anticipate it may be a couple of months before everyone is fully set up.
A few important reminders:
Not all women in our community are on the app yet, and not all are currently in the AI matching system. And some women choose to not be on either and just attend event local events. So please note both these systems are these are not representative our all of our members. Although we encourage all women to download locals app and as well our AI matching program. As we transition to a more refined and personalized experience—moving away from a broad directory to meaningful, strategic connections—we appreciate your patience and support.
As with any new technology, there may be occasional glitches. However, if you've attended our virtual or in-person events, you know how committed we are to ...
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Just announcing now!! Carey Overstreet will be speaking at our Sassy Soiree this coming week on Wednesday, Sept 17th from 12-2pm at the Kiln in Littleton. Carey Overstreet is a Certified Menopause & Health Coach, Professional Speaker, and Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist with over two decades in health, fitness, and recreation. She spent much of her career Empowering people with disabilities to live their healthiest lives—and now she brings that same passion to helping women THRIVE through Peri-Menopause and Beyond. Carey helps women master Mindset, Macros, Muscle, and Me/Self-Care.
Come join us if you're in Denver!
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Our first-ever She Talks Pitch Event is coming up this October, and we’re building a Pitch Winners Bucket to reward and support the incredible women founders who will be competing. To make this prize package as impactful as possible, we’re seeking in-kind donations in the following areas:
Professional services (branding, legal, accounting, PR, coaching, etc.)
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Event, travel, or networking opportunities
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If you, your business, or someone in your network would like to contribute, please reach out to me directly. Your support will not only spotlight your brand but also help elevate women entrepreneurs as they launch and scale their businesses.
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Next month is both National Breast Cancer Awareness Month and National Disability Employment Awareness Month here in the U.S. In honor of this, we’ve decided to highlight the incredible women in She Talks who are breast cancer survivors and share their powerful stories. We will also be covering powerful stories on disability and the advocacy we are focusing on as well.
If you are a breast cancer survivor and would be willing to schedule a short interview, I would love to hear from you. Please reach out to me at [email protected].
